“You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.” Walt Disney
In the movie “The Castaway,” Tom Hanks’ character confides that while he was marooned on an island for all those years, he almost gave up hope.
But he just kept breathing and going. And one day the tide came in and brought him a sail. That sail was brought to him in the form of the trashed side of a port-a-potty.
You never know when the tides going to bring something wonderful to you. Sometimes it will arrive disguised as disaster or grief.
Often it ends up being the answer to something you’ve been asking for.
Now, I’m not stuck on a deserted island right now, but I feel like I am. My life has been turned upside down. I can’t get any work done, I’m losing Twitter followers and I’ve been forced to write this on an old clunky laptop belonging to my nine year old.
It’s my computer that’s causing all of this strife! It’s broken, and it’s rendered me helpless. (And my PC repairman says he can’t figure it out…)
In difficult times we have to remind ourselves of the following truths:
It’s not the end of the world
Everything is going to be okay, and;
In the end, this is going to show itself to be for the better.
One great thing about getting older is that you learn how to handle adversity.
And more importantly, you come to realize that when disaster strikes, it often ends up being for the better.
You look back later and say “Thank you, God! If that horrible thing hadn’t have happened, I wouldn’t be in the great place that I am now!”
I came to realize the beauty of disaster long after my first marriage dissolved. It was a very happy marriage, or so I thought. I believed it was forever. Then, just a few years after saying “I do” he had an affair and ended the marriage. And I was devastated.
I became sick and depressed. I lost so much weight that my clothes didn’t fit. I believed that my life was over. There was nothing left for me. Eventually, I moved to San Clemente and started a new life to begin my healing.
That’s where I met Drew, the man who showed me how to live the life of my dreams. The year was 1996. And here we are, still happily living an amazing life together.
The point of all this is: Thank God my first husband ended the marriage. Or I would have never known that it was possible to live doing what I love and traveling the world with my loving, peaceful family.
Yet, at the time of the divorce, I couldn’t see that there was any possibility of happiness in my future. I was blind to the reality that better things were ahead.
There have been countless events that seemed awful or frustrating at the time, but ended up being a blessing:
- When Drew broke his face on the reef surfing Pipeline and was unable to work his job in Hawaii, he was forced to move to San Clemente and make a big change. It was that move that led him to his success in art (and to me).
- When the V.P. of the company I used to work for relentlessly harassed me (I now thank him for making it easy for me to quit my job in insurance)
- When Vans turned us down to be a sponsor for Drew’s PAINT PEN TECHNIQUES DVD (Converse ended up being sponsor and we formed a strong working relationship with them.)
- When we convinced the CEO of Nirve Sports to let us shoot a video at their headquarters and during editing found that the sound hadn’t worked. We didn’t dare ask to re-shoot – we were forced to come up with a solution. (We covered it with a voice-over, and found that it was so much cooler than the original sound!)
- When I got stuck in Bangkok for a week and was forced to explore the city alone. (It became one of the most memorable trips I’ve had.)
Really, the list could go on for pages. Just about every single difficult event has ended up being a good thing in the long run. Usually, though, I don’t see the wisdom of the situation until much later, when I look back on it.
Now, I’m not sure why my computer problems are happening. My Toshiba laptop is only a year old. Maybe the cosmic wisdom here is that it’s forcing me to organize my contacts and my back-up systems. Maybe I’ll switch to a Mac and that will open a lot of new, creative outlets for me.
I’m not sure what it is, but I’ll let you know when I figure it out. In the meantime, I’m not going to let it ruin me. I’m just going to roll with it and know that it’s just a bump in the road!