My friend is worried about her 23 year old son. He’s at an awkward stage where he’s not sure what to do with his life – he doesn’t want to go back to college, he doesn’t want to stay where he is living, and he’s barely making enough money to eat.
He’s paralyzed by the fear of choosing the wrong path.
“What if not going to college ruins his life?” My friend worries. “What if he moves somewhere and it doesn’t work out?” “What if he makes the wrong choice?”
And I asked her “Do you think there’s only one right choice?”
There are three times in our lives that we face big, life-changing crossroads:
- Late teens and early 20’s, when you realize that you now are responsible for yourself and you’d better get your life together;
- During a career collapse or after being fired from a job;
- At the Mid life crisis – when you see that more than half your life is gone and you didn’t do all of those things you were put on this earth to do, whatever that is.
Sometimes you just wish you had a crystal ball, or a soothsayer, that could tell you which road to choose. And it’s scary to discover that there’s no one better equipped to choose for you, than yourself.
The thought of making the wrong decision keeps many people from making a decision at all.
But, the only bad decision is indecision. Because indecision is making a decision by default – you’re letting circumstance determine your future for you, and most likely, it’s not the future you want.
Realize that there is no wrong path to take.
There are many right paths – you really can’t go wrong.
You just have to choose one path and stay on it. Trust yourself. Make a choice, or one will be made for you.
Maria xxoo
